Yesterday I was at our centre working in the morning and then just felt like a little drive out and ended up over in Hatton and a little chapel that is open always for people just to come along and sit and collect their thoughts and do whatever they need to do or I guess simply be..
I sat for an hour talking, asking, probing in my own searching waiting for another divine answer to emerge within my mind, it never came and a man walked in and broke up my communion to…perhaps do something similar in his own private way and so I gently stepped out and into my car.
From there I went to Hatton country world and had a little lunch and a elderly couple sat down a few tables away from me and at the same time a much younger couple with a baby in a pushchair and I watched as each couple sat by each other and yet looked miles apart. I watched them fumble with their phones and plates and each of them gazed away from each other’s eyes and never once made eye contact, they looked everywhere else except within each other’s eyes.
It was like watching the same couple with a 40 year gap and it made me think, did the elder couple go throughout their lives like that? And is this what awaits the younger couple?
So easy isn’t it to lose that connection with those we once loved or perhaps still do, as life kind of gets in the way and sometimes before you know it a caesium opens up which most times is emotionally to painful to cross. We get caught up in stuff and forget to keep those emotional bridges strong through intimacy
Intimacy is softness, tenderness and gentleness, not just through touch, but through eye contact or though our tone of voice and I wonder when was the last time you were intimate with someone you love and dare you take a chance today to reconnect, to build a bridge again by reconnecting to what you original felt in those people you love or loved as before you know it a lifetime has gone by and the gap is to wide.
Or can you be honest and live your truth as I think this is perhaps the greatest challenge for each of us as most of us are so busy in the lives of others as pure distraction from our own and so intimacy can be extended within ourselves and taking a closer look and not shirking from the pain but open and submerge into those feelings covered up by our busy minds and lives.
I did by the way come back from Hatton with a sign that caught my eye and it’s apt for this sharing and please do follow the you tube video below and I love this as this to me is intimacy
Artist Marina Abramovic was doing a live art performance that consisted of spending one minute of silence with a complete stranger. Many people showed up, but her response to one person in particular gave me the goosebumps, and you’ll soon see why.
At the 1:30 mark, Ulay, her former lover for many years sits down across from her. Marina and Ulay broke up more than 30 years ago and this is the first time that they have seen each other again since then.
This was obviously an emotional and shocking moment for her, and as you can see, she tries to carry on until the end, but seems almost unable to. This is really beautiful and intimate ,moment by moment shared between those we love ,isn’t it wonderful ?
In their eyes, you can read the love story,which is lit once more, although perhaps briefly and part of me say’s don’t let him go.Isn’t this really what life is about ? these moments of tenderness, through our eyes, touch and voice, otherwise why were given such incredible sensitivity, if not to feel another’s love from deep within, intimacy is its name and only love can open that for each of us.